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You did it.  You fooled me.  Well, to be fair I think you believed it was true too but it wasn’t.  You convinced me that our precious little baby Adam wouldn’t take a bottle.

I believed you because I’ve tasted Isomil or whatever it is the doctor has him drinking now and guess what, it’s really, really, REALLY gross.  You believed you because you didn’t really want to give the baby a bottle for me–especially if it might take actual work.  In an effort to find enough time to do anything other than nurse this baby, however, I resolved to try a two-ounce bottle a day until I could get him to agree.

I succeeded on day one.  For future reference, here’s how it works.

The baby is crying and hungry.  You mix and warm up the bottle–not too hot.  Afterwards, you pick him up and put the bottle in his mouth.  He doesn’t like it too much because it’s a little bitter and, let’s face it, it’s rubber.  I mean how many sane men, young or old, ever said to themselves, “What I really want right now is a fake nipple”?  None, that’s how many.

Nevertheless, you keep the fake nipple in the baby’s mouth and you hold him gently.  Eventually he gets the idea that something that will cure his hunger pangs is dripping from it.  He begins to suck.

After a few minutes he may reject the bottle again.  Try burping him.  Whether he belches or not offer him the bottle in another minute or so.  He will probably protest but you will overcome!  Hold him close almost like you could nurse him yourself.  Give him a couple kisses on the head and a nuzzle while keeping said synthetic nipple full of bitter formula in his mouth.  In a second he’ll take it and you will have succeeded in giving your mother or wife a break.

For Pete’s sake.

If that’s not enough incentive think about how much sooner your own dinner will be on the table if I don’t need to drop what I’m doing every two hours to feed “The Gullet.”

Thank you.

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Adam John, content on Mom's lap at the computer.

My latest distraction and the answer to, “Are you still doing your blog?” 

Alas, mostly no. 

I sit on this fence so much.  Do I have time to blog?  I don’t know.  I would like to.  On the other hand, here’s little number eight.

He was 9lbs even at birth.  He is 12.5lbs at four months.  He’s not much for putting on weight.  The pediatrician offered to donate some fat for him but that’s not allowed.  I, however, am encouraged to give to the cause.

Now that Mr. Adam is below the 10th percentile for weight I get to hold him almost all day long.  The good doctor told me to feed him eight to ten times a day.  With the exception of a six-hour rest at night and two two-hour naps a day  that means I cannot waiver on offering him sustenance every two hours.

But wait, there’s more!  He’s sensitive to cow’s milk AND soy and he’s justifiably disgusted by hypoallergenic formulas.  (They taste like paint thinner if you ask me.)  Nutramigen made him break out anyway.  So there’s only one milk truck for Adam and her name begins with E. 

Will I be blogging more?  Maybe.  I have another entry started.

Stay tuned to see if I finish…

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I guess today the answer is to blog.

I’ve been spending some time thinking about where I want to go with this.  Do I publish whatever it is I write on my little-read/unpaid blog or do I spend time trying to publish my writing for pay?  Ultimately, I think the answer is both.

It looks like my last blog post was in March and honestly, I’m shocked to see that I still have people checking in here and there.  Wow, hi!

Since then I’ve been, you know, pregnant.  That’s a lot of work.  I’ve also been a slave to the phenomenon that is youth baseball.  We had four boys playing on five different teams this year.  It was fun!  It was oh so much fun!  The only thing I can say to that is I’m eternally grateful it wasn’t four girls dancing in five different dance troupes.  I think that would have killed me.

And lest you find yourself wondering why five baseball teams should be a burden, let me assure you there was more.  There was also girl’s JV tennis, flute lessons and all of the stuff that comes with the end of the school year–art fairs, very cute preschool plays, field trips, concerts, recitals and mommy guilt.  I’m afraid to say I’ve continued to fail at getting 1,000 lap-hours of reading in for my preschoolers.  I’ve also asked my big kids to babysit too much.

*sigh*

Basically, I barely had time to think.  And I needed to think for many reasons, not the least of which was to figure out where I’m going with this writing thing.

I also barely had time to eat, which means I was subsisting on PB&J and that, it turns out, makes me into a very, very low-energy pregnant woman.  When it was finally time for school to get out and about time for me to take my one-hour glucose test I started eating much more sensibly and voila!  I had a normal amount of pregnant-lady energy again.  I also had a lot less back pain, which I find surprising.  I still failed the one-hour glucose test though.  I find out tomorrow if I passed the three-hour test.  I hesitate to hazard a guess.

Nevertheless, all of that is behind us now.  The kids opted out of summer baseball and I opted out of signing them up for any other summer activities.  That has left us with six weeks of blessed boredom.  So far we’ve managed to fill this boredom with three pool parties (two of our own and one elsewhere), gardening, yard work and long neglected household projects.  Each day feels freer when one of those household project suckers gets checked off the list.

Today will apparently be a day for moving bedrooms around in anticipation of the little one’s September arrival.  I think I may even begin the job of painting Marie’s new girly bedroom.

The next several weeks of boredom will include a trip to the White Mountains, more painting and decorating newly reconfigured bedrooms, more neglected household projects, lots of summer reading, hopefully lots of writing, some crocheting of the new baby’s crib-blanket-from-Mom, waiting for crayons to go on sale for 20-cents a box at WalMart and getting the back-to-school shopping/scavenging through hand-me-downs under control.

All in all it leaves me wondering how all you people with zero to three children manage to make it through a single day without dying of boredom.  Really, how do you DO it?!

At any rate, back to the thinking about writing thing.  It seems to me I can both blog and write for profit.  Lots of people do it, right?  I can at least try.  (I say try because it’s not exactly the golden age of writing for profit at the moment right now, is it?)

For the past little bit I’ve been working on getting some fiction going.  I took a creative writing workshop a few years ago and I think I was pretty successful.  The instructor encouraged me to enter some contests and maybe I’ll do that again.  The idea of forging ahead on my own is a little scary though.  Finding out what’s buried in my head is a little scary too.  It’s always so dark.  We’ll see where it goes.

This morning I started working on some personal essays too.  That was easier though it’s where I get stuck on the idea of separating professional work from blogging.  For now I’m going to give it a try and see how it shakes out.  There’s lots from our daily life that can find a home here.

So, here’s to beginning again.  We’ll see how long I can keep it going!

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In all my years of birthing babies there are a few things I’ve noted to be true. One such thing is that you don’t get to truly know a child’s personality until they’re walking.

Of course there are lots of things you can know about them. I swear I knew a few things about some of my kids before they were born–especially the older ones who I had more time to really observe.

I’m not kidding, for example, when I say that I remember the weekend I started feeling David move. I was on retreat so I was without the distraction of my family. It was a silent retreat too so there was lots of time for quiet reflection and noticing that, hey, this kid NEVER stops kicking me. He was a lovely, easy baby after that but when he was a toddler, woo wee! Watch out! Shannon, on the other hand, seemed to be on a schedule before birth. Every morning I’d wake up and lie still for a few moments to get my predictable good-morning kicks. I wasn’t able to do that with any of the others and none of them were still taking two three-hour naps a day when they were two like she did.

But, the truth of my experience remains that you don’t truly know who a child is until they can walk. That’s when they can explore what they like on their own. When they have the ability to slide off your lap, you find out what drives them. It’s also about the time that they develop decent communication skills and a sense of humor. Then you find out how well they can do the former and if they have one of the latter.

So, Marie’s finally walking. She was a late walker. At eighteen months she’s only been ambling around for about eight weeks. Now I can confidently say she’s no girly-girl.

I’m not complaining. Hey, she’s a girl, for sure. She flirts like a girl. She bats her eyes at her dad. She loves to hug her dolly. She is gloriously disinclined to throw things. (Thank. You. God!) I can still doll her up in clothes that don’t feature pictures of sports equipment, pets or trucks but, she’s a sucker for anything electronic and with the exception of the aforementioned doll her favorite thing to do with anything too froofy is to get it as far away from herself as possible.

Just try hading her a chunky lavender pony with a beautiful, flowing, pink polyester mane. She’ll drop it away from herself, she’ll push it back to you and if you persist too long she’ll give it a few whacks on the nearest hard surface before getting rid of it.

Do you have a toy you think she might like? Does it have buttons that will make it talk, roar, growl or play music? Fantastic!

Can she crawl across the floor pushing it to activate a purring motor, a siren or the sound of skidding tires? Yesss!

Does it have a digital display of any sort? Just try and drag her away! I tried to drag her away from one today but nothing could compete. It was glorious. It was captivating. It was plugged into the wall and it had one of those warm glowing screens with red numbers on it. It was a carbon monoxide detector and it was awesome!

She even gets in on the wrestling and Andrew says she’s a cheap shot. He demonstrated for me by lying on the floor on his stomach the other day–all 5’4″, 140lbs of him. My teeny, tiny, pink clad toddler dove on him. He rolled over, wrung her out and sent her away. Then he got back on his stomach. This time she ran up, whacked him in the head and tried to take off. Unfortunately her stride is much shorter than his reach and he got her.

The other day she discovered the joy of running around the chimney. She ran and ran and ran–which was remarkably similar to her walking and walking and walking–until she had a coughing fit. Then she crawled and crawled and crawled around it.

Am I surprised this is my Marie? Yes and no. I mean how could it be avoided with five older brothers, I suppose. On the other hand I didn’t expect it to happen so early. I thought years of sitting on the sidelines of the gridiron would do it to her. I didn’t think it would be part of her DNA. But alas, it seems to be and all in all I’m thrilled. I mean it could still come to fruition but lately I’ve been thinking ahead to when she’s old enough to take to Disney World and I’ve been dreading the whole princesswear thing. Perhaps I needn’t be concerned.

Oh, who am I kidding, there’s a new Tinkerbell movie in which Tink is, believe it or not, a technogeek. Somehow I can’t imagine there’s not a Tinkerbell costume somewhere in her future.

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I’m just so thrilled I had to share. I mean I initially replied in the comments section of the post it went with, but I’m positively silly with excitement over it and I need to commemorate the occasion with a full-blown, has-it-really-been-six-weeks-since-my-last-entry blog post. Having friends and family read my blog is great. Having strangers peek in and actually let me know they’re fans is great too. But a hater?

I. Have. Arrived.

(Thanks Hannah!)

So, Hannah appears to be one of the rabid John and Kate fans I mentioned in the post just below. That’s where I came good and clean with my less than enthusiastic feelings about them and child-rearing for dollars. I gotta tell ya, she let me have it. I’ll show you, actually. Here’s her reply:

wow…
i can’t help but feel bad for all of your 7 children.
it sounds to me like you don’t have enjoyed being a mother at all…
which makes me wonder why it is you decided it was a good idea to have 7 children.
Kate didn’t plan on having 7 children at once…
and if you don’t think she should have helping hands near by, then thats up to you.

but having 7 children one at at time and then complaining on a blog about how much of a bother it is to have that many children…
my god,
you need to look back over your life and think hard long and hard about why you are in the position your in.

enjoy your children while you have them…
they will be gone before you know it.

And then, after she read the other responses and realized I’m not fond of summer vacations with the rugrats in tow she added this:

p.s. don’t take vacations anymore….
your children will be much happier if you didn’t go anywhere and there was less whining.

Oh my, but it’s delicious! I don’t think I need to think too hard about my life though. I know exactly how I managed to end up with seven children. *wink wink nudge nudge*

So, Hannah says she feels bad for all seven of my children (All of them?! Clearly she’s never met Ben.) because what I’ve written here makes it obvious that I don’t like being a parent and they’d surely be happier if I could find a way to quit complaining.

Ouch! Hannaaahhh!

I knew my point in writing that John & Kate post was to say once and for all that, no, I do not enjoy watching John & Kate because, believe it or not, people ask me if I do.

A lot.

I might have mentioned a couple of other things too–like the fact that I don’t think they’re so amazing to be doing the same job millions of other large families do without lots and lots of free help and big, free paychecks and that I’ll be more than okay if I never see another animated children’s feature. I might have interjected those things but I think I got my point across, didn’t I?

I think I got my point across so I’m confused. Either Hannah thinks I abhor motherhood based on that one post about John and Kate and the fact that I’m over Walt Disney or she’s read a lot more of my blog and she thinks I’m very, very serious when I’m trying to be funny. Whoops!

The truth is this. I never did like Anastasia but I do like my children. Even the boys. Even when they ask me to play with their Matchbox cars. They’re smart and funny and they read this blog AND they laugh about it. There are actually several comments around here from my oldest daughter telling me to keep writing and that my stories are hilarious. So, I guess she doesn’t strenuously object to my whining.

But, while we’re discussing the oh-so-horrible mommy sin of complaining I have a question. What, are we sugar-coating motherhood here? ‘Cause, you know what, I’m not the sugar-coating type and as wonderful and joyful as it is, it’s HARD. It’s expensive, labor intensive and emotionally draining. If you show me a woman who loves, loves, loves every minute of it I’ll show you a liar. In the words of the great Pat Benatar, “love is a battlefield.”

Since this is my blog however, the answer is no, we’re not sugar-coating motherhood here. As Hannah pointed out about my not thinking Kate should have help, it’s up to me. I don’t think that about Kate though. As a mother of seven who knows precisely how much work her life entails, I think most emphatically Kate should have help. I still don’t want to watch her on tv.

But that’s not even my favorite part. My most very favorite part is where Hannah uses the fact that Kate didn’t mean to have seven children at once as some sort of defense. It’s so non-sensical it makes me feel all filled with whimsy!

First of all, Kate had six children at once, not seven but that’s beside the point. How does the fact that Kate Gosselin never planned to have eight children and that she had six at once make her family more sympathetic as far as large families go? Why does the fact that she allowed herself to be implanted with more embryos than she could safely carry give her family a pass on the scorn and derision some people feel justified in spewing at the rest of us? I don’t get it. Having more than a half dozen embryos implanted despite the inherent risks to the health and lives of the mother and all the children strikes me as one of the less responsible ways to have a family.

What if I told you I didn’t plan to have seven children, what would you think of me then? Less, I bet. Okay, I know you would think less of me even though you think well of Kate. You would think less of me even though all of my seven pregnancies combined was less dangerous than the one in which she bore sextuplets after deliberately taking a potentially lethal (and one of her fetuses did die) chance by having too many embryos implanted.

At any rate, I need to thank Hannah for the stellar advice on vacations but I already decided they won’t be worth it until everyone’s old enough to pack their own toothbrushes. Staying home is fine anyway because without corporate sponsorship we happen to have a comfortable home, great yard for playing in and a nice, refreshing pool–all of which I’m grateful for until I’m cleaning them solo. And most importantly, for those days when life with seven kids really does feel like a battle to be won we have a great big bunch of friends with liquor cabinets.

Seriously though, did anyone else happen to catch the episode of John & Kate Plus Eight when they had movie night? Because you can be my witnesses. It wasn’t a blast. While Kate seemed to be yukking it up (for the cameras?) John was decidedly stressed out and NOT having fun. I guess he should have considered that before agreeing to IVF. Hmmmmm.

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People who know me and say things like “You’re so relaxed you’re like Xanax,” may be surprised to know I’m really a nervous wreck. (I have this nagging feeling I’ve blogged about this before.)  Perhaps it has something to do with the fact that while my internal dialogue is going like this:

Aaaahahahahahhaahhhhh! They’re using my car’s cigarette lighter to ignite napkins, tissues and football practice jerseys?! Holy crap! I am a terrible mother! What in the world was I thinking by procreating so many times? They’re all talking about me and what a terrible mother I am. Oh, God. That’s the least of my worries. DCFS is definitely going to come knocking at my door this time.

What comes out of my mouth is more like this:

Oh, my! Thank you so much for telling me about that Bill. (Walks quickly but calmly from the front of the van to the door.) David, get out of my car. Your coach is here and you can practice now. Ben, go play on the jungle gym. (Turning back to the other parents and pocketing the lighter with a mental note to never put it back.) They’re trying to kill me. (eye-roll) I guess I can just add this to the list of things I’m going to do to them and their things as payback when they grow up. How long until they move out?

Somehow, no matter what flippin’ insane things are going on around me I can’t bring myself to convey the flippin’ insane way I feel. Instead, I come across with a calm response or a joke or both. On the one hand, it’s probably good. On the other hand I don’t wonder why funny people like Chris Farley and John Belushi end up addicted and subsequently dead.

Anyway, that’s how it goes most days. Other days, not so much. The time I drove myself and four small boys to Boston for a postpartum doctor’s visit was one of the not-so-much days.

Ever the optimist I arranged for Todd to meet us in the parking lot so he could take care of the children in the waiting room. Of course he was late. Todd doesn’t do on time. This required me to lug two rowdy preschoolers, a toddler and a newborn into the office by myself.

It was lovely.

The waiting room was A SCENE. I seem to remember having to let other patients go in front of me as my appointment time came and went without Todd. I can’t say for sure. I’ve blocked out some of the more horrible parts. I know that when he finally did show up I was led away from the waiting room and seated in an orange plastic chair. Given the circumstances it was the most awesome orange plastic chair E.V.E.R.

As the nurse took my blood pressure she asked how things were going. I heard the doctor laugh out loud in his office when I responded that it was great if you like living in a frat house for little people.

Ten minutes later he walked into the exam room, sat down and started a conversation that went like this:

Doctor: Frat house for little people, ha?
Me: Yeah.  (Insert pathetic attempt at a chuckle.)  Didn’t you see them in the waiting room?   (Bursts into tears and begs for pharmaceuticals.)

Okay, it wasn’t EXACTLY like that but, sadly, it wasn’t all that much different either. Which brings me to my point.

I still live in a frat house for little people. Maybe more now than I did then since all the boys in question are now walking and talking and spending as much time as possible acquiring new and ever more creative ways to converse about body parts and their various functions. They’ve also broken my couch by diving onto it from an end table when they think they won’t get caught.

This very morning I was sitting on the broken end of the couch folding Mt. Laundry when Ben suggested I move.

Mom, he said. You shouldn’t sit there because you could break it worse with your big butt.

Oh, the tact.

I didn’t answer at first. I just continued folding and thinking about the fact that I really could lose some weight but, honestly, I don’t care. Then it dawned on me that hey, even if I have more to worry about than my weight at the moment, I don’t really want to hear comments about it from my five-year-old so I said, You know, Ben. Women don’t really like it when people tell them they have a big butt. His response? Well, you do.

Out of the mouths of babes, right?

I guess I should have known my college aversion to all things Greek would eventually come back to bite me in the ass.

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